What Lessons Are You Learning From This Crisis
Summary: During a crisis is when personal growth is most possible. During adversity and crisis, there are always lessons to be learned and shared.
Try asking your friends what they’re learning from this crisis. The responses you get may surprise you.
I just had somebody call me that I haven’t spoken to in a long, long time. I was his sponsor for many, many years in a 12-step program. And he left me a message on my answering machine. What my friend said when he called was —
“The first time you ever took me to a meeting you were trying to teach me something, and I wouldn’t listen. And you said to me, ‘Craig, unless you are quiet and stop believing that what you think you know is true, you’re never going to hear an ounce of any information I’m giving you to try to help you with your disease. If you continue to think you’re right and you’ve got this, you’ll never be able to learn.’”
So this dear buddy of mine, who tried countless times to get himself healthy, couldn’t do it until he was in enough pain to hear those words I’d spoken to him decades previously. Before that, he was getting the advice he needed, but he wouldn’t surrender to it.
It finally happened for Craig, and he’s now 27 or 28 years off of drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling. How did he do it?
Because in a crisis he was finally able to hear what he needed to hear and learn what he needed to learn in order to grow and move on. You can do the same.
How to Grow During Crisis
When you grow in a crisis, you’re growing through pain.
The pain is so great that it forces you to identify what’s causing the suffering and to think about the control you have over it. And then you put in the work to get rid of the pain, and you grow from it.
So growing isn’t necessarily easy, but the value and the benefits of growing are having an adult life. Being able to take care of yourself, expand your IQ, and explore your world.
OK. But how do we accelerate our growth without experiencing even more pain?
There’s a saying: To learn from your mistakes is good, but to learn from others’ mistakes is gold.
So if you understand that, you can learn more from others’ pain and suffering and avoid your own.
In essence, to accelerate your growth you have to get help from outside yourself. And the fundamental principle of helping anybody is that the person must want to be helped.
So the first step in growing through someone else’s hard-earned wisdom is saying, “What I’m doing now isn’t working. I recognize this isn’t working. I need help.” That’s the first step.
The second step is surrendering to people who can help you. If you ask for help, but ignore it in favor of your own understanding, you’ll just perpetuate your blindspot and limitations.
When you go to a doctor, he tells you things. And unless you accept the doctor’s diagnosis and prescription, he can’t help you create the health that you can’t do for yourself.
And that’s my hope for you. That you will see the silver lining to in this and any crisis you face as a time for important growth for you. Which it will be – if you can turn to trusted help.
The fact that you’ve read this far is a very good sign. We got this, together, and I know we can keep on growing, together! We’ve got your back, and now you’re not alone!
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